They Call My Joy a Sin

I’m entering the new year with a lot less baggage and the realization that some people would rather see you hollow than see you happy.

Dec 31, 2025 • Xavi Benjamin

2

1

Fundraiser: Custom Watercolor Sketches for Donation!

Hi there friend,

Dec 11, 2025 • Xavi Benjamin

3

October 2025

It's Finally Here: My New Song "YOU" 💔

How I finally stopped chasing someone who didn't deserve me.

Oct 30, 2025 • Xavi Benjamin

3

July 2025

Data Stream - July 2025: Sweet Heat, Big Shifts

Bees, superheroes, AI, and class struggle.

Jul 28, 2025 • Xavi Benjamin

4

2

1

What We Build When We're Ready

I knew what I wanted, and I'm choosing it.

Jul 23, 2025 • Xavi Benjamin

4

2

1

June 2025

Subject to Change

Clarity, stability, and maybe even love—all in one month.

Jun 16, 2025 • Xavi Benjamin

4

April 2025

Help! I Can’t Tell If Our Politics Are a Dealbreaker

When values clash, is love still a good enough reason to stay?

Apr 30, 2025 • Xavi Benjamin

3

Fifteen Years Later, I’m Finally Going to College

What higher education looks like when you’re not 18 anymore.

Apr 23, 2025 • Xavi Benjamin

5

1

March 2025

The Middle of the Sandwich

How my best birthday yet helped me trust the life I’m building.

Mar 31, 2025 • Xavi Benjamin

4

This Time, I’m Not Afraid

Polyamory, growth, and learning to trust what’s in front of me.

Mar 14, 2025

5

1

Help! I Ditched Religion, But Guilt Won't Let Me Enjoy Sex

Unlearning purity culture is not a switch you flip, it's an ongoing conscious process.

Mar 6, 2025 • Xavi Benjamin

2

1

February 2025

Love in the Time of Algorithms

The absurdity and alienation of modern dating.

Feb 25, 2025 • Xavi Benjamin

4

1