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Desk Memo
Dear Reader,
Imposter syndrome gets a lot of airtime, and for good reason. Most of us are living with some version of it: the feeling that there’s a gap between who you are and who you’re supposed to be.
I ran into my own version of it this week. I’ve been working on getting more comfortable with conversation: the kind that starts cold, with strangers, without a script. It doesn’t come naturally, so I’ve been taking the reps: small talk with people I don’t know, whenever one presents itself. This week, I got a few of those in. What I noticed is that the discomfort doesn’t go away; it just becomes more familiar. That’s what closing the gap looks like—not eliminating the distance, just working it.
That’s what I think a conscious life requires: staying aware of the gap between who you are and who you’re building toward, and putting in the reps instead of waiting until you feel ready.
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Warmly,
Xavi B
What Ryan Gosling’s Best Role Since Barbie Gets Right About People
Project Hail Mary opens with a man who doesn’t know who he is. He wakes up alone, runs through a basic self-inventory, and has to reconstruct himself from scratch. That’s the film’s premise and, it turns out, its argument. Ryan Gosling plays Ryland Grace, and he’s fantastic, carrying most of the film by himself. The cinematography and color throughout (from the grade to the costumes) felt especially intentional. The red NASA space suit stood out to me; I found it far more delightful than the white suits of real life.
I don’t want to get too much into spoiler territory, so all I’ll say is that the supporting cast is also great, human and non-human alike. The emotional stakes they bring make the film land hard several times, so don’t feel bad if you’re wiping a tear or two. Lens blur is prominent throughout to signal the character’s own blurriness with his memories. There are moments where this almost goes too far, and some viewers might have issues making out the details.
The pacing drags in places, making the film feel longer than its two-and-a-half-hour runtime. The notion that the world’s capitalist governments would work together to solve a global crisis is laughable and utopian, but somehow the film earns it. It’s a story that shows how ordinary people can make extraordinary sacrifices, and a meditation on the resilience of humanity and our instinct to collaborate to survive. Bottom line: it’s genuinely moving, flaws and all. What did you think of the film?
The Robot Assistant Isn’t Just a Chatbot Anymore
Refusing to trust AI companies is reasonable. The technology is still worth paying attention to. Claude Cowork allows people to give AI extensive context and access. You can point it at text files that contain important information for your workflows, projects, goals, tasks, and life. But you also give it access to apps you use through MCPs and connectors. You suddenly have a very powerful AI assistant, tailored to you.
This is exactly what David Sparks covers in his latest Field Guide on “Robot Assistants,” as he calls them. We may be seeing the future of how computers and phones work. The devices run themselves and ask for our input when necessary. It changes the traditional relationship to how files are viewed, organized, and thought of. This is JARVIS from Iron Man, made real. It can handle record creation, updates, deletions, and renames. It can develop a file structure and organization tailored to your needs and follow them without constant user input. David discusses his system in more detail on an episode of Mac Power Users.
The form looks familiar (it’s still a chat interface), but the capability has shifted meaningfully. This isn’t just a smarter search engine; it’s a system that knows your context and can act on it. If that frees people up from the administrative grind to spend more time on the things that actually require being a person, that’s the version of this technology worth paying attention to.
The Shelf Life of a Reality TV Star
The Bachelorette cast Taylor Frankie Paul in an effort to save their franchise with a somewhat already famous lead. Three days before the season’s actual premiere, TMZ released a 2023 video, and now the season has been canceled.
Disney knew. They had footage of this exact incident from the beginning of season one of The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives. So it got to a point where it would damage the company’s image, and ultimately, they probably thought it would not be profitable for them in the long run to continue the season.
I think it’s very telling of how corporations, like Disney, that produce both The Bachelorette and The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, will use these people who put their lives on display for everyone to see for as long as they are entertaining. They make the money, and the moment that they feel like that’s not the case anymore, they discard them and move along. These corporations exploit the personal lives of people, and in this case, children, for money.
Small Talk Isn’t Pretending: It’s the Price of Entry
Making friends is hard, mostly due to capitalism. But capitalism or not, we’d need to make small talk with other humans, and that’s the reality. Dr. NerdLove’s column is fantastic because it explains why small talk is necessary for achieving meaningful relationships. It’s a key stepping stone to understanding whether you align with someone, and skipping steps will lead to mixed results.
Dr. NerdLove’s deeper point is that theory isn’t enough. You can’t just read about socializing; you can’t just read about making friends; you actually have to practice in the real world. You have to challenge yourself to create social interactions with people and put yourself out there. You will only improve through experience.
This connects back to what I was getting at in the Desk Memo: closing the gap between who you are and who you want to become is not just about knowledge; you also need practice. What reps are you putting in? Reply and let me know.
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